3 Ways Moms Can Inspire Positive Thinking
As the mom of a toddler, I remind myself daily, “It’s not what happens, but how I react that matters.” Our mindset is everything, and often the only thing we can immediately control when it comes to fertility, and as a new mom.
Actively bringing positivity into our lives, shapes the way we view situations we find ourselves in, and makes a positive mindset easier to cultivate.
Here is an example from my pre-mom life:
My husband and I took a weekend trip to Keystone, and coordinated dinner with friends who recently moved to Denver, where we’d fly in. We were to get in at 6, giving us time to drop luggage at the hotel, freshen up, and get to the restaurant by 8.
I cannot even begin to calculate the odds of all the tiny events that built upon each other. The biggest factors; our Lyft took over an hour to drive the 10 miles to the airport, which has never happened. Once there, a man in front of us in security inexplicably took many long minutes to open and repack a pizza. We ran, but missed our flight by minutes.
It’s too easy to see the negative side of this situation. For a minute – after sprinting to the gate – I was focused on our now rushed timeframe. And, how much better things would be if we’d left just 10 minutes earlier. Then, I stopped.
Looking for the Positive
I looked at the situation from the other side. We were immediately put on the next flight, we had our luggage, we’d still get in before dinner, we’d still see our friends. The only real downside was we’d need to put our suitcases with the hostess instead of at the hotel. Hell, I now had time for a coffee!
My point is, my mood for the rest of the night was my decision. I could focus on the negative and spend my energy wishing this had happened or that had happened. Or, I could enjoy my coffee, read my book and be happy we’d still get to dine with friends.
A negative mindset makes you only see the negative, inviting in more negativity. It is exhausting. A positive outlook opens your world. Focusing on negative aspects of your life, not only keeps you in the past, but closes off the future. Who wants to dream about the future when you only see the bad?
However, when you see positive outcomes, and feel positive emotions; joy, love, excitement, you are able to see more possibilities in your future and the world around you.
If you’re dealing with infertility, or you’re in the early days of Motherhood, seeing the hard parts is easy, but it won’t change anything. Flipping your mindset to see the positive changes your reactions, and your life.
Here are a few ways to bring more positivity into your life:
Even if you don’t feel like it, the act of smiling sends messages to your brain that spark the release of dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins; the happy neurotransmitters.
I know, women do not need another person telling them to smile! But, keep this tip in your pocket as a hack to “fake it ’til you make it”. When you see another negative pregnancy test, smile and remember this isn’t the end of the story. When your toddler is refusing to nap, smile and remember it means early bedtime.
Getting crafty puts your brain in a state of flow, allowing happiness and positivity to envelop you. You can work on a personal project (I enjoy cross-stitching), take a class with a friend or your spouse, or create something with your little one!
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Pass it Forward
Helping others, gets you out of your pity party and puts things in perspective. It feels good to make someone smile, make a task easier, or simply connect with a stranger. Aim to do one nice thing – no matter how small – for someone each day!
I love working with new moms and moms-to-be, when negative thoughts can easily get in the way. Together, we strategize ways to invite a positive mindset and relieve stress. If you’re stuck in the negative, shoot me an email at Samantha@simplywellcoaching.com and lets chat! A FREE 20 minute Discovery Call will help you determine if health coaching is right for you.