3 Things to Consider Before Starting a Family
Nothing is more exciting than welcoming a child into your life. Still, there are a lot of things you should think about before you have a child. Here are three common things people consider before starting a family, and how to evaluate where you stand.
Can You Afford It?
Raising a child is expensive. That’s probably no surprise! Parents spend hundreds of thousands of dollars on their children throughout the entirety of their lives. Therefore, one thing to consider before starting a family is if you can afford it, right now.
We’ve all been told that, “You’ll find a way to make it work!” And, I fully trust that if you got pregnant tomorrow and weren’t totally financially prepared, you would. But, if you’re still in the planning phase, it will help relieve a lot of stress if you look at the numbers and begin making plans with your partner on what you’d like to adjust.
To start, look over your finances from this past year and determine if you can afford to add other expenses to your plate. If you’re genuinely committed to starting a family now, start planning out strategies to save money. Cut out all your most outrageous expenses first; then, cancel all the subscriptions you can live without. Speaking with a financial planner about your future may also be helpful. They can help you devise a plan to get your finances where you want them to be.
Should You Relocate?
Babies need space. After all, they grow more and more every day. Figure out whether your current living situation can accommodate another person before you start a family. Nothing is more stressful than not having enough space as a new parent. Avoid this headache altogether and relocate before you have a child so that you have all the room you need as a growing family.
Also, think about your current neighborhood—is it family-oriented? You’ll undoubtedly have trouble putting your baby down for the night if your neighbors always have parties. Think of the day-to-day logistics. What will it be like to get out the door and in the car with a baby carrier? Can you easily get to the grocery, a pediatrician, daycares?
Deciding whether or not you need to move before you start a family is helpful, but not the end of the world.We moved cities when our son was 11 months. You can do it, too, but if you’re considering moving before trying to get pregnant, now is the time to make the move!
Are You Emotionally Ready?
Starting a family is an emotional roller-coaster. You never know how long it will take to actually get pregnant, and it can become stressful before you’re even expecting! Then, once baby arrives, you’re totally responsible for another person’s well-being.
Make sure you’re both ready for that kind of commitment. Now is the time to take long trips, spontaneous weekends away, and do what you want to do when you want to do it.
Once you have a child, there’s no turning back. Make sure you’ve sorted through all your emotions and that you’re ready to take on the task. Reach out to your support system about your future plans, as well. They’ll be able to provide some input, and they may even offer support in terms of childcare, too. I honestly feel you will know when you are ready. It can be quick, too!
One summer you may be more concerned with traveling or drinking at weddings, and suddenly, the thought of not being able to drink because you’re pregnant will be more exciting to you.
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